Scout’s honor?

My last 24 hours have been consumed by a serious dilemma, the correct path from which remains unclear. My son has expressed interest in joining the Cub Scout pack based at his elementary school, but I hold serious reservations about allowing him to join an organization that is openly discriminatory (through official policy) against religious non-believers and homosexuals.

In the official FAQ from Boy Scouts of America, persons not subscribing to theistic belief cannot be scout members or leaders. The BSA definition of God is admittedly ecumenical and inclusive, but only for those faiths that subscribe to the idea of a personal God who bestows “favors and blessings.” A person is prohibited by policy from being a member or leader unless he subscribes to this general concept of God.

Perhaps more troubling is the BSA blatant discrimination of homosexuals. By BSA policy, “a known or avowed homosexual does not present a desirable role mode for the youth” and considers homosexual conduct “as not morally straight.” As such, homosexuals are prohibited from participating in scouting.

These prohibitions are so diametrically opposed to my personal belief that my first reaction is to suggest alternative activities to my son. I am sure that if instead of non-believers, we substituted “Muslims, Hindus and Jews” there would be outrage. I am sure that if instead of homosexuals, we substituted “Blacks, Latinos and Asians” there would be outrage.

To make sure I wasn’t having an overly reactionary response that would have negative affects on him, I decided to get feedback from friends who had experience (good or bad) as scouting members or parents. A simple post to my Facebook profile elicited a quick and wide variety of thoughtful response.

A more religious friend of mine asked: “Are you going to ban him from saying the pledge of Allegiance? Would you let him go to Notre Dame? Would you let him eat at a friend’s house if they were going to say grace before the meal?”

My answers to these questions is “no, yes and yes” — because I see a vital difference between these scenarios and that presented by scouting.

My son has the choice to say the Pledge of Allegiance at school. If he says “under God” or not, he is still welcomed as a student in his classroom. If he has the inclination and talent to go to Notre Dame, he will be accepted there as a student, regardless of his profession of religious belief. In fact, Notre Dame is the place where I was challenged by faculty and fellow students to ask the questions that eventually led to my adherence as a non-believer. His religious faith or lack thereof will have no bearing on his acceptance or success should he attend. Finally, we are firmly in support of him gaining exposure to a variety of different ways and faiths as he makes his way through life. We would never prohibit him from a friend’s dinner table where a prayer of thanks was given, as long as his participation was voluntary. He routinely participates in grace at his grandparents house, as I bow my head in silent respect for the beliefs of my in-laws.

In all of these scenarios, there is a respect for individual choice. In the case of scouting, that choice does not exist (at least by stated policy). Is this the type of organization I want my son to participate in? Is official policy different from actual practice? From the reaction when I posted this question online, it would seem that the official BSA policy is not one that is emphasized or practiced. Two of my more secular friends whose children participated in scouting commented that they didn’t “recall any religious overtones” and “the experience was extremely positive and there was little if any religious aspect to it at all.”

What good do I do for my son by forbidding his participation? Is he old enough to even understand why my decision was made? As another friend asked, “Is it worth disappointing him to try to teach him that you don’t believe in discriminatory organizations?” I understand the positive outcomes that scouting can have in a young person’s life. I would love to see him gravitate away from video games and TV and develop new interests, especially those that involve the outdoors, personal responsibility, and community service. Scouting can provide all three. Am I prepared to forbid his participation in all organizations that don’t represent my values verbatim? Is this a case where the good can outweigh the bad, and the bad can provide a moment where tolerance can be taught?

I must admit that I’m leaning toward giving the local scout pack a chance to prove that it stands separate from the discriminatory policies of its bureaucratic parent. I hope that it proves my concerns unfounded.

Published by Christopher Tidrick

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  1. I must say, we have had an amazing experience in Scouting. I was the Den Leader for the first five years, and now that he has moved from Cubs to Boy Scouts, the Dads have pretty much taken over. My son has learned to be much more independent and resourceful throughout his Scouting experience, and I wouldn't change a thing! Good luck with your decision!



  2. Chris,
    Jake is 6 years old and he wants to do Cub Scouts. It's not like he wants to attend Bob Jones University.

    If you go to a few meetings and get creeped out, just quit. Most kids who do Cub Scouts lose interest before they start Boy Scouts. My guess is that after he makes a birdhouse and learn how to tie a few knots, you will wonder why you made such a big deal about this.

    In your quest for enlightenment don't end up taking things too seriously.




  3. […] months ago when my son first expressed interest in joining the scout pack at his school, I wrote a post highly critical of the Boy Scouts and what I perceived as their organizational culture of discrimination. Based on media stories and […]



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